The Proust Questionaire

My dear friend Albert answered the Proust Questionaiere (wonder why it’s called that) and inhis comment dared us all to do the same. So here I go.

What is your idea of perfect happiness?

As soon as I let this question sink in a smile appears on my lips, and in my heart and mind, and everything falls silent. So I guess that’s my answer.

What is your greatest fear?

That my family, my friends, my culture and all of humanity, that all beings and this planet – that we don’t ‘make it’ through to the next spiral of evolutionary development.

Which historical figure do you most identify with?

As much as I reflect, I can’t find any that I’d identfy with. John Lilly, maybe, if one can call him historical already, especially after I met him in Amsterdam some 20 years ago, and because of his “Simulations of God”.

Which living person do you most admire?

Circles of people in which WE appear..

What is the trait you most deplore in yourself?

Feeling not good enough.

What is the trait you most deplore in others?

Avoiding the space and everything else that emerges between us if we give it half a chance.

What is your greatest extravagance?

Allowing myself to be guided by what I feel most true, and actually moving along those lines.

What is your favorite journey?

Into the mysteries of this moment, inside, outside, between-side

What do you consider the most overrated virtue?

Being nice to each other.

On what occasion do you lie?

When I feel the truth doesn’t help but rather hinders the growth of people, groups and situations.

What do you dislike most about your appearance?

Can’t think of anything, really. Not that I like everything, but I don’t dislike what I don’t like – go figure!

Which living person do you most despise?

Murderors and people who ‘shit’ on everybody else consistently.

Which words or phrases do you most overuse?

“From my point of view”.

What is your greatest regret?

Not having loved where I know I had capacity and opportunity.

What or who is the greatest love of your life?

Human beings – whenever I allow myself (and the situation allows) to look long enough at someone this love is there: that’s it.

Which talent would you most like to have?

Convincing the influential and wealthy to seed what they truly have…

What is your current state of mind?

Appreciative inquiry into ‘myself’ in answering these questions; a smiling presence.

If you could change one thing about your family, what would it be?

Deep care.

What do you consider your greatest achievement?

Truly incarnating and giving up any spiritual achievement.

If you were to die and come back as a person or thing, what do you think it would be?

A loving smile.

If you could choose what to come back as, what would it be?

A universal embrace.

What is your most treasured possession?

The certainty that there is no posession – I’m just a steward of some talents and things.

What do you regard as the lowest depth of misery?

Negative nothingness.

Where would you like to live?

On the Mediterranean coast.

What is your favorite occupation?

Being with people, exploring we-fullness.

What is your most marked characteristic?

Under all circumstances finding the positive perspective.

What is the quality you most like in a man?

Openness, clarity and integrity.

What is the quality you most like in a woman?

Sweet surrender, clear embrace, brightness.

What do you most value in your friends?

Mutual support and apprenticeship.

Who are your favorite writers?

Haruki Murakami, John Lilly, Paul Auster, Alan Watts, Christopher Alexander.

Who is your favorite hero of fiction?

Rick Deckard.

Who are your heroes in real life?

No more heroes anymore.

What are your favorite names?

Ridiculous question.

What is it that you most dislike?

I don’t do in disliking – at least not for longer than a minute or so.

How would you like to die?

The same way I wake up.

What is your motto?

Flow with the mystery and serve the flowering.

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